In a few days Christmas will be celebrated not only by ones who observe it as a religious holiday but also by non-christians for various reasons. Still, there are others who neither observe nor celebrate the 25th of December as a special day. The decorations, Christmas songs, lights, increased activity at the malls, office parties, and the list goes on; the signs of Christmas are everywhere.
With these signs come the expectation to be joyful. Whether one authentically feels this way or not, the expectation is there. But what IF…….
What if you or a loved one is dealing with a diagnosis? What if you are experiencing the effects of losing a loved one in death, the loss of a relationship or a job? What if you are just SAD without being able to pinpoint the cause? How does one reconcile these real feelings with the expectation to be joyful? How do you honour and CARE for SELF amidst this duality ?
A central part of SELF-CARE is Training the Mind. Here is one tool to use in successfully training the mind. The Power of Decision. Decide comes from the latin word which literally means “to cut off”. This sounds a bit drastic but it is absolutely necessary. To successfully care for SELF you must cut yourself off from ALL that is not in alignment with the the results you would love. This may mean cutting away from:
People who expect you to just “go along with the crowd”
Media with messages designed to define “normal” at this time of year
Activities or gatherings where “acceptable behaviour” dictates that you ignore your true feelings.
Once you cut off or get rid of that which does not serve you, the void created must be filled with what you DO want. Transmutation not Denial is what serves you. Therefore,
Surround yourself with people who are understanding and respectful of YOUR journey while supporting you as you process, work through your feelings, and arrive at solutions
Carve out some “ME” time to Refresh and Refocus
Engage in activities that you love, activities what feed YOUR SOUL.
Remember that caring for your authentic self…MIND, BODY, and SPIRIT will ensure that you are sharing your best self with others.